Jan 28, 2018
If you were given an unexpected 21% raise, would you ask for
more? The answer for most of us is we would be so surprised
that the thought of asking for more wouldn’t cross our minds.
The reality is there is a high cost when we don't ask.
This episode explores three examples of opportunities where
women could have asked, and didn’t and the cost that resulted by
not asking. You may see a little of yourself in the real-life
examples and that is o.k.! It has happened to all of us…
where we look back and think: “if I only I had asked!” Here
is a blueprint to creating a habit of asking and the rewards that
will happen when you do it on a regular basis.
6 Steps to Creating an Asking
- Take A Look Back In Time. Think about the past
five days. Was there a situation where it didn’t even occur
to you to ask for something? Perhaps you knew there was
something you wanted but didn’t ask? Write down the details
of the experience.
- Take Note of How You Felt. Regret is something
that we all have but it is what we do to move forward that counts.
If you are feeling wistful that you should have asked-don’t
worry you can change it next time!
- Create an Alternative Storyline. Now think
about what could have happened if you did ask…and how it makes you
- Look Forward in Time. Think about the next 5
days. Is there a meeting or opportunity in the where you may
have the chance to step outside of your comfort zone and ask for
something important to you?
- Anticipate Questions In Advance. Create a play
book of things you might ask for in different scenarios.
Perhaps you want to have a one-on-one with a leader in your
company. Are you looking to get stakeholder buy-in and need
support? Imagine situations where the opportunity to ask will
occur and practice what you would say to achieve a positive
- Make an Ask Success List. Each time you ask
someone for something-keep a log on the outcomes. Even if the
answer to a question didn’t quite turn out the way you hoped, write
it down. Sometimes the hardest thing in making progress is
taking the first step. Taking action is so important.
Keep this list on your smartphone or someplace that is easily
accessible. Refer to the list when you have doubts and it
will reinforce the positive habit of asking for what you want.
This is your time. Don’t leave anything on the table-ask for
it. You are worth it!
If you would like more insights about building courage, and
asking for what you want, reach out to me at www.rockyourtradeshow.com/letstalk.
I would be honored to help you.
Resource: Check out
episode 30 on Negotiations and the steps you can take to get to
yes. For more advice, and insider marketing tips visit
Credits: As always-a big thanks to
Christy Haussler and Team Podcast for editing